Does it ever seem like it’s just too much? Have you felt as if the changes that are so obviously necessary are just never going to happen? Unless you live in “Fairytale Land”, this feeling has probably crept up on you from time to time. If you are going to make changes, you need to have the mental conditioning of a winner. I’m going to share with you 3 things that will get you out of the dumps and into the stratosphere of success. But before I do, I want you to be ready to do a few things.
1. Be honest with yourself. When it comes to fixing issues from within yourself, you must be completely open to exposing what is holding you back.
2. Be ready to commit. You’ve heard people say that they “make their own luck”. Success doesn’t just fall in your lap, you have to work for it.
3. Be ready to write it down and share. Many people think that intentions are something that they can keep in their head. Those turn into sorta, kinda, maybe someday things. When you write your intentions, you are taking your first step into action.
These 3 attitude changes are what I like to call the 3P’s. I learned them long ago from a very respectable mentor and I have always found them to be the best guides, as long as I used them.
“Keep your face always toward the sunshine – and shadows will fall behind you.”
― Walt Whitman
Yes, stay positive. This is something that is completely within your control, but it is amazing how many people I have come in contact over the years that don’t understand this. Say this in your head right now: “Today is going to be an awful day”. Now count to 5 and think about that. Now say: “Today is going to be an awesome day”. Count to 5 and think about it. You have the power to keep either one of these thoughts in your head for as long as you want. Which one do you think successful people keep? Everyone can find a reason to dwell on the negative, but it will drag you down like a weight. Stay Positive!
Another thing is that Positive people attract Positive people. If you know someone that is successful and they have a positive outlook, they will instinctively know what attitude you are bringing to the table. I guarantee you that they will keep you at an arms distance because they don’t want you to drip any of your negative thoughts into their happy space.
Please don’t write this off as some silly affirmation weirdness. It is truly imperative that you practice positive thinking if you are going to have a successful life. I challenge you to find someone that you classify as truly successful that you can get anywhere positive with a negative mindset. Remember, you are the only one that is actually in control of that mindset. Sure there are what appears to be influencers, but the effect of the influencers is up to you.
“Success is stumbling from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm.”
― Winston Churchill
“I asked somebody to fix my problems, but they didn’t jump right up and do it, so it’s hopeless”. Nope! That’s not going to work. You didn’t wake up this morning with the intention of fixing everyone else’s problems and nobody else did either. If you have things that you need to accomplish to make you successful, you need to persistently seek ways to make them happen. If you have already tried and it didn’t get you the results you need, try again. If you tried again and it still didn’t work, think about why it didn’t work and approach it differently. If you give up, you will not succeed. Now, that being said, don’t just go fight tooth and nail for every little thing that pops into your mind. Sometimes I think about making “Prioritize” the 4th P. Make sure you pick what matters most and persistently make progress to accomplish the correct achievements.
Remember, every little piece of the puzzle isn’t going to just fall right into place every time. It will take work. You may even need to change the way you initiate your attempts to resolve something. Maybe all you needed to do was acknowledge that the person you are asking for a favor is busy. Maybe you should have consulted the team for ideas before you insisted they accept your solution. Maybe you could look to see if anything that you are doing is getting in the way of solving the problem before you seek assistance from someone else (this is where being honest with yourself really plays a part).
Most good things don’t happen overnight, so don’t expect them to. When you see a success, you often see it at the point that it is recognizable. What you don’t notice is how much time it took to get there. Patience is actually best when in harmony with Persistence. Don’t give up and don’t expect too much too soon. If you have a well thought out plan, let each stage take it’s due time.
I’ve seen many people taking the right steps, but because the results they were looking for weren’t instantaneous, they gave up and never succeeded. I’m afraid that this is becoming more common as technology provides us with instant gratification in almost everything.
What does this look like in reverse?
Let’s say somebody gives you the advice to start focusing on having negative thoughts, to give up quickly and expect good things to just spontaneously pop up overnight. I’m pretty sure you’d know that they are not looking out for your best interest. Well, I am and I’m advising that you do the exact opposite.
Start right now! Be very aware of your outlook and do everything you can to condition it to be positive. Trust me, it will become automatic before too long. Then I want you to be persistent when it comes to the important things while practicing patience at the same time. I guarantee things will start improving in your life.
As you go through these steps, make sure you are being very honest with yourself. Maybe even pretend you’ve got your worst critic playing devil’s advocate on this. You also need to be aware that this is a commitment you are really going to need to put some effort into on a daily basis. I want you to write down what you are going to do in the comment section below. I’d also like for you to share your thoughts about these steps or possibly some results from adopting these 3P’s into your daily attitude.